Comments on: Can I Get My Ex-Girlfriend Back By Stalking Her (With Kindness)? http://www.advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/can-i-get-my-ex-girlfriend-back-by-stalking-her-with-kindess/ Because who knows more about dating than a guy who's still dating? Wed, 07 Jan 2009 12:38:16 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Rachel http://www.advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/can-i-get-my-ex-girlfriend-back-by-stalking-her-with-kindess/comment-page-1/#comment-9033 Rachel Fri, 13 Jun 2008 19:57:11 +0000 http://www.advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/can-i-get-my-ex-girlfriend-back-by-stalking-her-with-kindess/#comment-9033 THE GIRL WASN'T WORTH IT. Matt, I hope you get a chance to read this. I'm guessing there was some sort of ego rush, in stealing the proverbial forbidden fruit. "Oh, this beautiful girl wants me instead of that other guy, I am a golden god." When she wanted to leave, you needed that ego rush back. "Am I losing the it factor?" Feel free to disagree, but I believe that the pursuit of her was not so much about love, it was an attempt to preserve your pride and dignity. There's another way to do that: letting go, achieving things in your life, and getting a better girlfriend. LOOK, If she cheated on her boyfriend to get with you, then OPEN YOUR EYES. Obviously she didn't know how to deal with people honestly. Why would you think she'd treat YOU any differently? Because you're special? No no no, she's on a control trip, and you gave up all the power to her. Hey, if that ex had so little self-respect to get back with a cheater, he'll join that world of pain again soon. She'll cheat with some other guy to control that relationship, feel bad, maybe get back together again. Be glad you were set free. THE GIRL WASN’T WORTH IT. Matt, I hope you get a chance to read this. I’m guessing there was some sort of ego rush, in stealing the proverbial forbidden fruit. “Oh, this beautiful girl wants me instead of that other guy, I am a golden god.” When she wanted to leave, you needed that ego rush back. “Am I losing the it factor?” Feel free to disagree, but I believe that the pursuit of her was not so much about love, it was an attempt to preserve your pride and dignity. There’s another way to do that: letting go, achieving things in your life, and getting a better girlfriend. LOOK, If she cheated on her boyfriend to get with you, then OPEN YOUR EYES. Obviously she didn’t know how to deal with people honestly. Why would you think she’d treat YOU any differently? Because you’re special? No no no, she’s on a control trip, and you gave up all the power to her. Hey, if that ex had so little self-respect to get back with a cheater, he’ll join that world of pain again soon. She’ll cheat with some other guy to control that relationship, feel bad, maybe get back together again. Be glad you were set free.

]]> By: Selena http://www.advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/can-i-get-my-ex-girlfriend-back-by-stalking-her-with-kindess/comment-page-1/#comment-3499 Selena Wed, 09 Jan 2008 01:47:46 +0000 http://www.advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/can-i-get-my-ex-girlfriend-back-by-stalking-her-with-kindess/#comment-3499 Jeff, I can't tell you how to get this woman back, because frankly, it doesn't sound like you ever really had her. In the 9 mos. you've known her she's had a boyfriend (more than one?), is getting married? And has told you pretty clearly she wants you to back off. I don't know what she did with you actually for those 2 months she was seeing you privately, but it appears she either didn't take it seriously, or her feelings changed. You need to let this one go Jeff. Take all the advice given to Matt and apply it to yourself. You can't be friends with her because you don't feel "just friendly". Consider bringing a date to the wedding. Jeff,
I can’t tell you how to get this woman back, because frankly, it doesn’t sound like you ever really had her. In the 9 mos. you’ve known her she’s had a boyfriend (more than one?), is getting married? And has told you pretty clearly she wants you to back off. I don’t know what she did with you actually for those 2 months she was seeing you privately, but it appears she either didn’t take it seriously, or her feelings changed.

You need to let this one go Jeff. Take all the advice given to Matt and apply it to yourself. You can’t be friends with her because you don’t feel “just friendly”. Consider bringing a date to the wedding.

]]> By: verbosity http://www.advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/can-i-get-my-ex-girlfriend-back-by-stalking-her-with-kindess/comment-page-1/#comment-3484 verbosity Tue, 08 Jan 2008 20:23:34 +0000 http://www.advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/can-i-get-my-ex-girlfriend-back-by-stalking-her-with-kindess/#comment-3484 If our boy Matt can't connect the dots here, no amount of pointed posts will help... If our boy Matt can’t connect the dots here, no amount of pointed posts will help…

]]> By: jeff http://www.advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/can-i-get-my-ex-girlfriend-back-by-stalking-her-with-kindess/comment-page-1/#comment-3450 jeff Mon, 07 Jan 2008 21:59:11 +0000 http://www.advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/can-i-get-my-ex-girlfriend-back-by-stalking-her-with-kindess/#comment-3450 Hi I am Jeff , I am 24 and still a virgin, 9 months back i had a girl how already had a boy friend. I cam e to knew her form my work place . We were good friend, suddenly few things happen and i have to quite my job. On my last day of work she was very confused and sad I asked the reason ,In reply she proposed me. i was very happy to see some one loving me .As time passed on we started meeting privately. After 2 months she had some problems back home so she has to go to her country, but she was in touch with me by phone and my sms. One day i was disparate to see her, so i called her country and she said she was about get married with her ex and i was shocked. I realised that I was speechless and week at that point .Later She came back and was behaving very strangely. I requested to meet her one day so that we can finish misunderstanding , at first she said ok but suddenly she called me and said she cant meet me, and gave me some flack reason . I recognised that and got upset then send very strong message, which i think destroyed our friendship. As the days passed on i convinced her to be my friend but I never get call or msg she just respond me with 1 word answer or get angry on every normal msg . I am very much stressed and disappointed my new year party was ruined and I just dream about her every second .With in short period we are going to meet on a friends marriage she will be coming to party with her boy friend (who is also a casual friend of mine ) , i kindly request you to help me too get her back, please give some tips how should I approach her . (I want to get back her at least as friend). Being single i am going crazy. Please help me … Hi
I am Jeff , I am 24 and still a virgin, 9 months back i had a girl how already had a boy friend. I cam e to knew her form my work place . We were good friend, suddenly few things happen and i have to quite my job. On my last day of work she was very confused and sad I asked the reason ,In reply she proposed me. i was very happy to see some one loving me .As time passed on we started meeting privately. After 2 months she had some problems back home so she has to go to her country, but she was in touch with me by phone and my sms. One day i was disparate to see her, so i called her country and she said she was about get married with her ex and i was shocked. I realised that I was speechless and week at that point .Later She came back and was behaving very strangely. I requested to meet her one day so that we can finish misunderstanding , at first she said ok but suddenly she called me and said she cant meet me, and gave me some flack reason . I recognised that and got upset then send very strong message, which i think destroyed our friendship. As the days passed on i convinced her to be my friend but I never get call or msg she just respond me with 1 word answer or get angry on every normal msg . I am very much stressed and disappointed my new year party was ruined and I just dream about her every second .With in short period we are going to meet on a friends marriage she will be coming to party with her boy friend (who is also a casual friend of mine ) , i kindly request you to help me too get her back, please give some tips how should I approach her . (I want to get back her at least as friend). Being single i am going crazy.
Please help me …

]]> By: downtowngal http://www.advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/can-i-get-my-ex-girlfriend-back-by-stalking-her-with-kindess/comment-page-1/#comment-2155 downtowngal Thu, 29 Nov 2007 02:27:19 +0000 http://www.advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/can-i-get-my-ex-girlfriend-back-by-stalking-her-with-kindess/#comment-2155 Matt, all good advice here (I mean, HELLO?!?!? The COPS???). And I have to wonder about this woman who kept agreeing to see you and even accepted your ring (albeit only initially)? Sounds as if she's stringing you along because she likes the attention - DRAMA QUEEN ALERT. I'm sure you feelings are real, but dude, run, run run and get over this one. Go on vacation, take up a new hobby, do something. Whatever it is you had would have NEVER made for a good relationship no matter how hard you tried. Matt, all good advice here (I mean, HELLO?!?!? The COPS???). And I have to wonder about this woman who kept agreeing to see you and even accepted your ring (albeit only initially)? Sounds as if she’s stringing you along because she likes the attention - DRAMA QUEEN ALERT.

I’m sure you feelings are real, but dude, run, run run and get over this one. Go on vacation, take up a new hobby, do something. Whatever it is you had would have NEVER made for a good relationship no matter how hard you tried.

]]> By: mark http://www.advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/can-i-get-my-ex-girlfriend-back-by-stalking-her-with-kindess/comment-page-1/#comment-2149 mark Wed, 28 Nov 2007 20:22:02 +0000 http://www.advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/can-i-get-my-ex-girlfriend-back-by-stalking-her-with-kindess/#comment-2149 dude what the hell you taking? put down the stress pill and pick up a playboy realise the world is a big place. get on with your life and make her jealous get a new girlfriend and start going running or workin out or somat and if she ever had any feelings for you what so ever she'll realise what a good thing she had. if she didnt then its not worth waiting for her. but again dude you gotta lay off a little or you'll scare off new potential dude what the hell you taking? put down the stress pill and pick up a playboy realise the world is a big place. get on with your life and make her jealous get a new girlfriend and start going running or workin out or somat and if she ever had any feelings for you what so ever she’ll realise what a good thing she had. if she didnt then its not worth waiting for her. but again dude you gotta lay off a little or you’ll scare off new potential

]]> By: smartguy http://www.advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/can-i-get-my-ex-girlfriend-back-by-stalking-her-with-kindess/comment-page-1/#comment-551 smartguy Sun, 02 Sep 2007 20:17:36 +0000 http://www.advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/can-i-get-my-ex-girlfriend-back-by-stalking-her-with-kindess/#comment-551 dude if u want any chance of getting her back u need to back off and let her come to u. u need to make her jelious get another girl perhaps better looking then her. do something diff. with ur hair maybe get nicer clothes maybe work out. the best thing u can do is to show no intrest in her anymore n just show her u r doing fine without her and that u dont need her anymore dude if u want any chance of getting her back u need to back off and let her come to u. u need to make her jelious get another girl perhaps better looking then her. do something diff. with ur hair maybe get nicer clothes maybe work out. the best thing u can do is to show no intrest in her anymore n just show her u r doing fine without her and that u dont need her anymore

]]> By: redheadfromtdot http://www.advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/can-i-get-my-ex-girlfriend-back-by-stalking-her-with-kindess/comment-page-1/#comment-396 redheadfromtdot Sun, 19 Aug 2007 15:33:40 +0000 http://www.advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/can-i-get-my-ex-girlfriend-back-by-stalking-her-with-kindess/#comment-396 Is this guy for real? Is this guy for real?

]]> By: Alison http://www.advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/can-i-get-my-ex-girlfriend-back-by-stalking-her-with-kindess/comment-page-1/#comment-389 Alison Sat, 18 Aug 2007 18:39:14 +0000 http://www.advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/can-i-get-my-ex-girlfriend-back-by-stalking-her-with-kindess/#comment-389 Matt is 20, important part of this, and probably has seen far too many romantic movies. Therapy and a new focus would be a good idea. It is not that young people can't love, it is that they often do not know 'how' , nor do they know themselves enough to love and protect themselves. They are also not independent enough yet to feel secure, so often behave in desparate manners. (I know beacause I have been there) Also, one can't buy love either. What is important is developing self respect, personal strength, perspective, an understanding how love is an action, and that may involve letting a loved one go so he/she can grow, and then growing oneself. and yes Evan- it takes two to tango . Maybe Matt should learn to tango- I highly recommend it to all! Matt is 20, important part of this, and probably has seen far too many romantic movies.

Therapy and a new focus would be a good idea. It is not that young people can’t love, it is that they often do not know ‘how’ , nor do they know themselves enough to love and protect themselves. They are also not independent enough yet to feel secure, so often behave in desparate manners.

(I know beacause I have been there)

Also, one can’t buy love either.

What is important is developing self respect, personal strength, perspective, an understanding how love is an action, and that may involve letting a loved one go so he/she can grow, and then growing oneself.

and yes Evan- it takes two to tango .

Maybe Matt should learn to tango- I highly recommend it to all!

]]> By: Ben http://www.advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/can-i-get-my-ex-girlfriend-back-by-stalking-her-with-kindess/comment-page-1/#comment-387 Ben Sat, 18 Aug 2007 16:20:06 +0000 http://www.advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/can-i-get-my-ex-girlfriend-back-by-stalking-her-with-kindess/#comment-387 Mat a girl that cheat with you when she have a boy friend will cheat on you when you are marid with some one else.(personal experiance) Mat a girl that cheat with you when she have a boy friend will cheat on you when you are marid with some one else.(personal experiance)

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