Oct26
Do You Offer Your Phone Number in the First Email?
Do you offer your phone number in the first email?
How often do you get people calling it?
Please respond in the comments below.
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Evan
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happygirl Oct 26th 2008 at 05:14 pm 1
I have had men offering me their number in the first email. That does not mean that I will call them. I like to correspond a bit and then decide whether I want to call or not.I also have had men asking for my number, but I have not always given my number. I have no set rule about exchanging my telephone numbers. It all depends how the IM conversation goes or emails go.
I would say when I decide to give someone my number I have not had anyone not call me. The guys have always called me.
Cilla Oct 26th 2008 at 06:11 pm 2
Lord, NO. Too early for even the hottest prospects. Plus, with most guys, you’ll open yourself up to texting instead of emailing–they won’t use the number to actually CALL you!
Kenley Oct 26th 2008 at 06:49 pm 3
I like to get to a phone conversation quickly because I have had too many guys who were great at emails and extremely boring when talking to them. I just don’t want to waste time so I typically offer my number in the second email. For me, the telephone conversation is the real screen.
Jeannette Oct 26th 2008 at 11:44 pm 4
I wait a few emails and then have a phone call. If I sense from their profile and email communication that we can at least be friendly and have something to talk about, I prefer to cut to the chase and meet them in person to see if there’s actual chemistry–and to see how much they fibbed about their height, weight, and actual appearance. I’m not big on telephone talk unless we’ve developed rapport.
lisaq Oct 27th 2008 at 02:19 am 5
Never, never, never! And it creeps me out a bit. I’m all about getting to know someone a bit first.
Karl R Oct 27th 2008 at 08:00 am 6
Not the first e-mail. Probably the second, third or fourth. Generally I expect to do the calling, but I’ll provide my phone number when I ask for hers.
Dana Oct 27th 2008 at 12:34 pm 7
I don’t give out my number until after we’ve met, and only then if we like each other enough to have a real date. If a man offers his online, that’s okay, but I’m more comfortable with him if he holds off until we’ve chatted a bit first. And if I do agree to call, I block my number until I feel at ease with him.
JuJu Oct 27th 2008 at 12:38 pm 8
I’ve had men e-mail me their numbers in their first e-mail. This shows such poor judgment and attests to such different conceptions of the dating process (from mine), that most likely I won’t respond to them at all. I mean, really, this man would have to be very attractive and have some fantastic profile for me to overlook this.
I suggest talking on the phone when it seems like there is a chance we might have a meaningful conversation. Usually I can see it within a few e-mails, like others have said.
KissyFace Oct 27th 2008 at 02:28 pm 9
I never give my number out first. If we find a mutual interest thru email, I ask for the guy’s number and tell him I don’t give mine out first for safety reasons. No one’s ever had a problem with that and most of them agree a woman needs to be careful.
One guy told me that there is probably no safety issue with giving out my number, as the creeps and stalkers are probably not using a paid dating service. It made sense to me…a little. I don’t know if Match has free service for a month-at-a-time or whatever. If it’s only a paid service, then maybe this guy has a point. I’d be interested to know what you think about that, Evan (either thru your blog or in Tuesday’s call). Thanks.
satexasgirl Oct 27th 2008 at 02:48 pm 10
Absolutely not & I will not reply to a man who emails me with his phone number. It bothers me.
Elle Oct 27th 2008 at 03:51 pm 11
Having had a couple of BAD experiences on first dates, I never give out my phone number, my full name, my place of employment or my address until I’ve met the person face-to-face to see if he’s legit & trustworthy. Be careful out there, ladies!
JB Oct 30th 2008 at 06:52 am 12
C’mon Evan you know NO ONE offers their phone number in a first email …lol This is a trick question, right ? Even the hottest recon profiles I’ve put up (both men & women) I can honestly say with maybe the exception of 1 or 2 idiots who were probably clueless as to how internet dating “works” it’s just not done. I will say that I’ve found that some women will “offer” their number very quick within (2 or 3 emails) if the guy is a “ten”. They must think just because he’s “hot” he’s not a psycho stalker axe murderer rapist ….lol Why would he have to be he’s “soooo cute” …..he he he !!! Puuhhhleeezzz ladies !!
Be careful out there guys there’s a lot of crazy desperate women …………….if you’re a “10″
Selena Oct 31st 2008 at 04:22 am 13
Kissyface #9
Whatever would make you think creeps & stalkers wouldn’t use a paid dating service? Don’t you read the news? Or don’t you think they’d be willing to spend the money? Think again.
A dating site provides a whole catalogue of single women for creeps & stalkers to choose from - what a dream!
Not to scare you, just to be realistic. Continue being cautious.
Kissyface Oct 31st 2008 at 12:46 pm 14
@Selena #13
Reread my first sentence. Safety first, always. :o)
I think the guy’s point was that stalkers & creeps probably would not pay for a dating service when there are plenty of free ones out there. His comment didn’t change how I conduct myself.