Jul12
Are All Women Crazy? Are All Men Obsessed With Sex?
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Dear Evan,
Why are most men the same man… just in different vessels?
Kami
This question was sent to me by a friend as a joke, which is exactly why I’m printing it here.
There is that perception that “men” are one way, and “women” are another. Most people focus almost exclusively on these stereotypes and find evidence to support them.
So, if we listen to conventional wisdom, what do we know about men? Well…
Men are liars
Men are fools
Men are dangerous
Men are idiots
Men are pigs
You know how I got these nuggets of wisdom about men?
Google. IMDB. Amazon.
Look around. You’ll see.
These are concepts – book titles, even - that only go to reinforce our basest stereotypes. And the danger of stereotypes is not that they’re false – but rather in believing that they’re always true.
And if such stereotypes are to be roundly believed, what do they tell us about men?
Men cannot be trusted.
Men are lazy and can’t multi-task
Men are prone to violence
Men are likely to be unfaithful
Men don’t have feelings and don’t express themselves
Men want sex all the time
Men treat women poorly
If you’re a woman, you have probably met a man who was an uncommunicative, sex-obsessed liar.
But I’m wondering if you’ve ever met a man who:
Treated you extremely well
Consistently told you how he felt
Wasn’t as into sex as you were
Never cheated on you
Kept his word when he made a promise
Led a balanced life with work, friends, and cultural interests
I’m guessing you have.
And let’s not forget women’s stereotypes, also found in Google:
Women are evil…
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Kami Jul 12th 2007 at 12:58 pm 1
I call Bullshit! Lol. You forgot, ‘Men are DOGS!’ Lol. Naw…you’re right - about a few things…but, as a woman who is dating in LA…I’m finding MORE dogs dressed in pig’s clothing than I’d like. I feel that a lot of the male species now believes it’s okay to do as little as possible to benefit the most. Whatever happened to courting a woman? Where is the Woooooo….factor? Hmmmm?
Hugh Jul 12th 2007 at 03:53 pm 2
I think the stereotypes persist in our culture because they reflect the underlying truth ( looking at it from a statistical perspective ).
I have dated over 300 women in the last two years and have found the stereotypes to be true for 90+ percent of the women I have met. Men are encouraged to exhibit their worst behavior because they get treated so poorly by most of the women they encounter. They get trained to believe that good behavior on their part just makes them suckers to be exploited. This is a vicious cycle with the women then feeling betrayed by the men.
The solution is to always act with compassion to break the cycle one person at a time.
juLiette Jul 19th 2007 at 01:51 pm 3
yes- aLL women are “crazy” and aLL men Love sex. roLes can be reversed and there are exceptions to every generaLization.
Gerry T Jul 19th 2007 at 02:15 pm 4
These are some very interesting viewpoints by both men & women. I’m never really shocked when I hear these viewed being expressed because they’re so random and general in their application.
I’ve found personally through my own research which can be found on http://gerryt.com you’ll be surprise by what real people have to say about all this when they are being interviewed. A must see for anyone who’s interested in romantic relationships!
Lyall Taylor Dec 25th 2007 at 12:35 pm 5
Kami,
Two things: firstly, your post betrays an assumption that many women have - that the man ought to be the one to go to extreme lengths to satisfy the women’s needs/preferences, and to the extent he doesn’t, he is a dog. Do you have any idea how selfish this comes across? Why his he not entitled to focus on his own needs in the same way women always do.
Secondly, as Hugh has alluded to, women no longer respond to the ‘courting’ guy - that is why it has desolved. Respectful guys get absolutely taken to the cleaners by women. Hugh is absolutely right. The type of guy that women choose to sleep with is the ‘pig’ you’re talking about. I know many, many guys that are not like that, and they have one thing in common: women universally reject them. And I also know a number of guys who think and treat women like nothing more than a piece of ass, and act accordingly, and guess what? They are the ones scoring all the girls.
Men always get a bad wrap and in many cases it is so undeserved.
Like men are labelled as superficial in selecting women, being only occupied with looks. Yet there was an article here recently on height, and women will be quite open in acknowledging that “I won’t even date someone shorter than 5′10” ” and that “when I guy is tall, he just makes me feel more feminine” etc.
Well, seeking tallness is every bit as ’superficial’ as men seeking beauty, if not more so. Yet women don’t see it like that because they experience the emotion first hand. Do you not think the emotional experience a man has with a beautiful women is every bit as powerful??
It is time for women to stop blaming men for everything and to start taking some personal responsibility for what is happening out there.
OD UK Aug 1st 2008 at 06:04 am 6
your just as bad as each other, and anyone blaming an entire type or group obviously havent graspt the fact that the majority of people you meet in life are, most of the time: idots,liars,dogs….whatever you call them, being the fact its men or women is just a coincidence. so grow up you lots!
oh and yes i am a man, but im not all men!
hunter Aug 2nd 2008 at 06:44 am 7
on Post #2
..300 hundred women, in two years?…..OMG!…every mans fantasy!…..how did you do that?……
vino Aug 2nd 2008 at 11:06 am 8
“Are All Women Crazy?”
Yes, redundant.
“Are All Men Obsessed With Sex?”
Does a bear crap in the woods?
Hadley Paige Aug 2nd 2008 at 11:38 am 9
kAMI @ pst # 1 states: “Whatever happened to courting a woman? Where is the Woooooo….factor?”
What happened is that the whole deal is off. It used to be Man courted woman to get married. Man spend lots of time and money on woman (passing the test by women to see if he might be a good and attentive provider). Woman got married to man bc of that display. Man assumed head of household and took care of woman and her kids. Woman largely ceded to man decisions outside the home. Woman stayed in home took care of kids and home.
The feminist movement changed all that. Now women have all the advantages of men in the $$$ arena. (They just need to choose to give themselves over to the marketplace like most men do.)
So why woo?– As a man, I perceive it as a unfair deal for me. My persepective is that women can’t demand it all, namely wooing by men & equality everwhere else. You have to choose (and let us know which one it is so we don’t waste both our times).
hunter Aug 2nd 2008 at 10:07 pm 10
The feminist movement may have changed dating code, but, some therapists say, it isn’t working. Men may have to go back to “Wooing” women.
cinnamon Aug 3rd 2008 at 04:15 am 11
“Yes, redundant”
Thanks!
mike yuen ken paahana Nov 8th 2008 at 11:01 am 12
yeh we like sex an all women r crazy, das y a hooker is da best