Comments on: How Soon Should I Tell A Date That I’m a Virgin?

By: lyric

lyric — Mon, 10 Sep 2007 18:33:07 +0000

Being a virgin is not something to be ashamed of especially if you’re a woman. And if you are to give up your virginity, make sure that it will be worth it and not just with any “—hole”. It’s not just your virginity that you are offering but your whole being.

By: mrs. vee

mrs. vee — Tue, 11 Sep 2007 00:05:22 +0000

Great advice again, Evan.

I know women who got sick of their virginity and gave it away just to get it “out of the way”.

Try to avoid that course of action, ladies. You won’t regret it.

By: brandi

brandi — Tue, 11 Sep 2007 02:17:07 +0000

Never tell this when the time is right. I agree with lyric, Being a virgin is not something to be ashamed of especially if you’re a woman.

By: BeenThruTheWars

BeenThruTheWars — Tue, 11 Sep 2007 17:02:12 +0000

Maybe this will make you feel better: my first husband was a virgin when we met. He was 28 at the time. There wasn’t a thing wrong with him, he was just very career driven and hadn’t dated much. He wasn’t the least bit ashamed of his status, though he was happy to finally have a reason to experience sex (i.e., finding someone he wanted to be in a committed relationship with). That was 20 years ago, but things weren’t any different back then for guys than they are today. Most lost their cherries in high school or freshman year of college. I was far more experienced than he, but as Evan says, the subject just kind of came up organically. No one forced any issues.

In my opinion, women should not have sex with any man who hasn’t at least declared his sincere intention to continue seeing her for the foreseeable future. This is the bare minimum. Ideally, you both agree to be monogamous, he has told you he loves you, and you see this relationship potentially headed someplace. I don’t say this because I’m a prude or some big moralist; I say it because few things are more emotionally painful than oxytocin withdrawal. You really do create a very powerful bond with a lover, hormonally — to the point where a physical craving quickly develops. That’s a big part of where the “falling in love” feeling comes from — you can’t keep your hands off this person, you want to be with them all the time! It’s almost a physical ache when you’re apart. Men are affected to some extent, but with women it’s a serious whammy… and it hurts like hell when you are feeling all bonded and in love with a guy, and they decide, “Eh, on to the next conquest.”

My advice to all ladies, virgins or not, of any age, is… take care of your heart. Following the script Evan suggested, and then sticking to your guns, is the best way I know of to weed out the players and protect yourself emotionally. Who needs all the wear and tear?

By: sunshine

sunshine — Tue, 11 Sep 2007 22:47:00 +0000

right on! BeenThruTheWars

By: Hely

Hely — Wed, 12 Sep 2007 06:35:51 +0000

Hey! It’s me Hely and i wanted to thank Evan for taking the time to write back and giving me great advises;) From now on i’ll try to not make it an issue!
And thanks guys for leaving comments as well.

By: Daisy

Daisy — Thu, 13 Dec 2007 20:23:20 +0000

Hey I just wanted to say great advice everybody. I know men and women but mostly women that have been disappointed because of pressure that they feel to have sex with Mr. Right Now. Great advice and support for women to hear.

By: Yeng

Yeng — Thu, 20 Mar 2008 15:02:33 +0000

I think you dont have to be shy and worried of being a virgin because your still young . Bieng a virgin is sacred and blessed as written in the bible. Hely your husband soon deserves the first.

By: Michael Ejercito

Michael Ejercito — Mon, 18 Aug 2008 00:30:37 +0000

My answer:

sometime between never and the end of time.