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Online dating is truly a leveling of the playing field – not a tilting in the man’s favor. And the more desirable the person – whether it’s because of looks or money or education – the more likely that you’re gonna have a hard time getting that person to settle down on you. They most likely know that they have great power and are intent on exploring it.

So what is the right way to combat this if you’re a woman? By not sweating it. You can’t control what anybody else does, you can only control your actions and reactions to things. In fact, I’d tell your client exactly what I tell all my clients when they’re going out with someone – go in with the confidence that they’re going to love you and they’re more likely to love you. The more you worry about how often he’s logging on, and who else he’s dating, and why he hasn’t taken his profile down, the more likely you are to come across as needy.

But frankly, I think this is way too much analysis for what is a pretty simple situation. When a guy is crazy about a woman, he does whatever is in his power to make her his girlfriend. If he fails to do that, she’s just ignoring the writing on the wall. If she’s choose to exit a relationship that’s not progressing, that’s certainly within her rights. If he follows her, then she knows he cared. If he lets her go, she just saved herself a lot of time and trouble.

I’m no psychologist, but people’s behavior generally speaks for itself, don’t you think?

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