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What Do I Do With a Girlfriend Who Literally Sleeps Around?
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She is lucky that there have not been worse ramifications thus far. And yes, I am serious.
Creating an expectation of sex with a man and pulling away the prize is just the kind of thing that could invite a man’s rage. Drunk men who pick up strange women aren’t always the most rational lot, and I speak as a man who has picked up strange women under the influence of alcohol.
And so,
Tests are, in general, a bad idea for relationships. But to test a strange guy’s sexual willpower before he’s emotionally invested in her? Not a very smart idea. Tell her to start giving out her phone number instead of going back to administer the cuddle test.
After all, if he can’t pass the first test of calling her, he should have no business being in bed with her
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JimmyE Oct 11th 2007 at 02:56 am 2
I think there’s a good comparison to be made here between previous posts about men who use the promise of commitment in order to get sex, and this woman’s friend, who uses the promise of sex in order to get attention.
Although she may complain taht she never promises anything (just as men never literally promised to commit) she is aware how her actions will be interpreted, and this will get men to behave in a way they otherwise wouldn’t.
In both situations I think there’s a bit of an ego trip going on. Some men like being pursued by women they don’t want a relationship with. Some women like men who they don’t want to sleep with making a pass at them. I certainly wouldn’t take this girls frustration and anger at face value,
lyric Oct 11th 2007 at 10:54 am 3
Victoria your friend is very lucky to have you!
Mr. Katz is right. She’s playing with fire. Good for her that she hasn’t been burned but for how long? Keep in mind though that you can only advice her but not force her to follow. Just do the best that you know how to make her understand the danger without smothering her.
Roger Oct 11th 2007 at 11:26 am 4
All I can say is that it amazes me to what lengths some people will go to get attention. Victoria, your friend is literally being cruel to these guys and playing a rotten mind game just to get attention. Either that, or she is simply so naive she doesn’t know what she’s doing to them. Either way, she should stop immediately.
Selena Oct 11th 2007 at 12:57 pm 5
I agree with the attention-getting aspects of this behavior. Obviously, as “a test” it’s not a successful one in getting a relationship, since it has yet to bring her one.
Victoria, along with explaning Marc’s very real concerns to her, you might point out how this behavior just isn’t working for her in terms of finding a relationship anyway. And also, since it seems she has done this so much, isn’t it only a matter of time for the word to spread about what a tease she is? She might miss out on the great relationship guy simply because he reputation has preceded her.
mike paahana Jan 6th 2008 at 02:53 pm 6
i know my gf fooled around b4 so now i jus have sex with any girl that i want to with an i don’t even feel bad caus its jus about sex