Comments on: Women Are Racist

By: The InBetweener

The InBetweener — Sat, 01 Nov 2008 01:48:47 +0000

I don’t think ALL women are racist, that would be absurd.

The thing is, I PERSONALLY know women that are of different ethnic backgrounds that would not mind being friends (close or not) with guys outside their own race, but when it comes to dating them, they say “HAIL NO!!” (for whatever reasons)

Now, I’m not sure if that is enough to call them racist but I would say they have “preference issues”. Or at least, if they were asked, they would probably say that they are not attracted to other races.

I am of an interracial background myself. (American Indian-African American-Puerto Rican) I could NEVER see NOT dating someone based on their race.

How can I honestly say that I would like to be “in love” (which is kind of like the ultimate goal) but then turn around and eliminate like, I don’t know, 90% of my options? Based on race? It just seems too beneath me.

By: MILENA

MILENA — Fri, 31 Oct 2008 17:05:14 +0000

I am white female from eastern Europe. I am usually attracted to white guys and tall Latinos ( I am tall and I would like to date a guy who is at least a little taller then me.)
I dated African American guy once but it did not really work out.

By: Michael Ejercito

Michael Ejercito — Mon, 28 Jul 2008 14:56:54 +0000

As far as the asian women question - population wise there’s a whole lot of us! Abt a 1/3 of the world are asian, if not a bit more. I actually had no idea that we were more open to dating other races than women of other races ( say that 5 times fast =) ) - I just thought all women were the same in that. Being an asian woman myself, a lot of my friends and I have noticed a lot of interracial dating on both sides - men and women. I just never thought of it as an issue at all. However, I do wonder if the statistics are different for south and east asians.
I wonder if Asians’ openness towards dating other races depends on where they grew up.

By: Cilla

Cilla — Sun, 27 Jul 2008 16:37:29 +0000

I am white and have dated across the spectrum, but I have also come to the conclusion that I prefer darker men, whether African American, Aisian, or Latino. However, of that group, it is mostly African American men who are attracted to me. I was discussing this with a friend who has also fallen into the habit of dating almost exclusively black men. We both agreed that the African American men we had encountered were more open to a variety of body types and had a greater comfort with their sensuality than their white counterparts, which made them more attracted to us curvy types and made them more attractive to us (we happen to like men who are more sensual). Does this make us racist to draw generalizations from our experience, even they are positive ones? If I date only African American men, is that just another form of racism? I’m not asking facetiously–I’d like to hear what other people have to say.

To the Reverend: I’d have to say, I don’t see a lot of Asian men on dating sites, compared to other men. Since I’ve done searches looking for essentially non-white men, I would think they would show up if they were available. I’m not in a part of the country where there is a large Asian population, but even when I search nationally, I don’t get a lot of hits. When I do come across an Asian man, he is usually looking in a much younger age category (I’m 46 and they’re usually looking in the 30 and younger group, regardless of their age). I assume they are looking for someone who can potentially give them children–I’m not sure if there are any other cultural phenomena that account for this. Thoughts, anyone?

By: Sahaja

Sahaja — Sun, 27 Jul 2008 08:38:53 +0000

I think Eda makes a valuable point about women taking dating more seriously. I myself will date a guy of all reces, but as I get older, I sometimes wonder what would be a deal breaker in terms of marrying someone. Is there a point to dating someone long term if you both know it would never go anywhere due to cultural/religious differences? I dated a jewish man and a lebanese christian man and though both relationships were great, they ended because there was a disparity in who we date and who we marry - Namely, they had to marry someone of the same religion. And there is the next generation to consider as well - what will they be - not really race wise, bc thats not an issue, but religion is a big thing. I suppose it would be easier being Christian, since people of all races are christian - I think religion is a bigger issue in relationships than race.

In a way, its nice to date someone outside of your own race, because you open up whole new worlds to each other - Its a curiousity thing and its exciting and amazing. On the flip side, dating some one from your own culture - they have a unique understanding of where you come from that you never have to explain. So who kknows?

Sorry, this is way longer than I intended - but shouldn’t we also consider culture over race? I’ve found that UK guys, english or asian alike are more similar to each other than the same race in America.

By: Karl R

Karl R — Sat, 26 Jul 2008 22:09:50 +0000

sugarbaby (#20) said:
“i’m not so sure that men who say they have no problem dating women of a different ethnicity aren’t just out for sex. marriage is another thing altogether and i think men are more than likely to stick with “their own” if they want to have kids.”

There’s probably something to this.

Part of this may be due to cultural reasons, not racism. I know a couple women from eastern Europe, and would be cautious about dating someone from that culture, even though they’re the same race as me. (One of the women has offered to set me up with her attractive best friend, so this is not a purely hypothetical exercise for me.) In that culture, families place enormous pressure on the women to get married. I don’t want to have to wonder whether a woman is marrying me just because of that pressure.

I’m currently dating an Indian/Filipino woman who grew up in middle-class America, just like me. When we first met, I thought she was Indian. This worried me a little, since I know that Indians frequently face a lot of pressure from their families to marry inside their own culture. When she told me that her father was Indian and her mother was Filipino, I realized that she wouldn’t receive that kind of pressure from her own family.

Child-rearing exacerbates any cultural (or religious) differences. Even though my family is rather dysfunctional, I still base my ideas on child-rearing on how my parents raised me. If I were at all interested in having kids, those differences would be of major importance to me.

By: The Reverend Terence Fformby-Smythe

The Reverend Terence Fformby-Smythe — Sat, 26 Jul 2008 16:04:11 +0000

i wonder how many asian guys want to date white women.

By: sugarbaby

sugarbaby — Sat, 26 Jul 2008 04:02:50 +0000

as a african american man,who went to an all white school as a teenager in high school in the 80’s and couldn’t get a date to save me life, i resolved to never, ever let myself be like my narrowminded, bigoted classmates. i’ve been very lucky to have dated across the spectrum. i’m not so sure that men who say they have no problem dating women of a different ethnicity aren’t just out for sex. marriage is another thing altogether and i think men are more than likely to stick with “their own” if they want to have kids.

and i must say that i’ve found that most asian women on dating sites want to date white guys. i’ve seen profiles of women labeling themselves as exotic or “oriental delight”-no lie. so i feel for my asian brothers, who most likely have to compete with white guys all the time. of course, this habit of white men/asian women dating is endemic to the U.S.A.

By: JerseyGirl

JerseyGirl — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 13:15:58 +0000

“Guys rating a “2.5″ on a Hollywood scale, want a “10″ who doesn’t judge them for anything so shallow as income or hairline.”
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There is some truth in that. You always hear guys say “we like beautiful women, we are guys..we like sex, we are guys. We like a certain type of breast size..hair..age..we are guys…..and love us for our low paying, beer belly, burping, crude joke ways.” Why? Just for the simple fact that they are “men”. However, if women dare judge them for anything, we have entitlement issues and should “lower” our standards.

By: E

Wed, 18 Jun 2008 06:14:10 +0000

“White media does its best to hype up the white male image and to discourage females from dating any other race of males.”

Sometimes it’s a womans family that discourages a
woman from dating a man of a different race.

A woman might be afraid to date a man of another race
if her family threatened to disown her if she ever did
date/marry outside her race. Some families are very
cruel in that way.

I know of a family member who was disowned
because they dated and then married someone of
another race.