Comments on: Xmas Update http://www.advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/xmas-update/ Because who knows more about dating than a guy who's still dating? Fri, 05 Dec 2008 03:00:57 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.5 By: Anonymous http://www.advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/xmas-update/#comment-7 Anonymous Sun, 22 Jan 2006 07:57:47 +0000 http://advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/xmas-update/#comment-7 Well, Evan, I thank you for posting my note and replying, even if not quite at Internet speed. Yes, you absolutely cannot convince me otherwise. <br/><br/>I do believe that a relationship that doesn't work out is a failure. I do not believe that the object of a relationship is to have it end at some future point. Sorry if you disagree. <br/><br/> (This is not to say that a lousy relationship should continue. There are many middling relationships that should and do end, so we can perversely consider those successful. But that's not what we are talking about here.)<br/><br/>Actually, I think you are confusing "relationship" with "process." I don't think you mean to say that a relationship that ends (i.e. a failed relationship, to use a common phrase) has been successful. I suspect you mean that the process itself shows glimmers of hope: it's not that our client has had previous successful relationships, but rather that he has successfully been able to establish relationships of some longevity, giving him empirical proof that he has the ability to do so. Well, Evan, I thank you for posting my note and replying, even if not quite at Internet speed. Yes, you absolutely cannot convince me otherwise.

I do believe that a relationship that doesn’t work out is a failure. I do not believe that the object of a relationship is to have it end at some future point. Sorry if you disagree.

(This is not to say that a lousy relationship should continue. There are many middling relationships that should and do end, so we can perversely consider those successful. But that’s not what we are talking about here.)

Actually, I think you are confusing “relationship” with “process.” I don’t think you mean to say that a relationship that ends (i.e. a failed relationship, to use a common phrase) has been successful. I suspect you mean that the process itself shows glimmers of hope: it’s not that our client has had previous successful relationships, but rather that he has successfully been able to establish relationships of some longevity, giving him empirical proof that he has the ability to do so.

]]> By: E-Cyrano http://www.advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/xmas-update/#comment-6 E-Cyrano Fri, 20 Jan 2006 04:48:38 +0000 http://advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/xmas-update/#comment-6 I do think that marriage is a goal for most of us. By the same token, I don't think that two people who don't work out = failure. If you feel that the only successful relationships are the ones that end with a ring on the finger, then I can't convince you otherwise. For me, any relationship that lasts for awhile, where there are no hard feelings, where I feel like I've learned, where I know that I'm a step closer to finding "the one"...This, to me, is successful, if not the pinnacle of success. I do think that marriage is a goal for most of us. By the same token, I don’t think that two people who don’t work out = failure. If you feel that the only successful relationships are the ones that end with a ring on the finger, then I can’t convince you otherwise. For me, any relationship that lasts for awhile, where there are no hard feelings, where I feel like I’ve learned, where I know that I’m a step closer to finding “the one”…This, to me, is successful, if not the pinnacle of success.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/xmas-update/#comment-5 Anonymous Wed, 18 Jan 2006 16:11:07 +0000 http://advicefromasingledatingexpert.com/xmas-update/#comment-5 Evan, you write: " By reminding my client that he was the same great guy who had previous successful relationships .."<br/>If this guy is a client of yours and therefore looking for love online, this means by definition (unless he is widowed) that he has NOT had previous successful relationships. If he did, he would be happily enjoying that success, not paying you.<br/>Maybe you can clarify how you define "successful relationship." Sounds to me that his previous relationships have ALL been UNsuccessful. Otherwise, why is he here? Evan, you write: ” By reminding my client that he was the same great guy who had previous successful relationships ..”
If this guy is a client of yours and therefore looking for love online, this means by definition (unless he is widowed) that he has NOT had previous successful relationships. If he did, he would be happily enjoying that success, not paying you.
Maybe you can clarify how you define “successful relationship.” Sounds to me that his previous relationships have ALL been UNsuccessful. Otherwise, why is he here?

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